Friday, November 1, 2013

The Moment

Happy Friday Friends!

I hope and trust this post finds you all having a great day on this absolutely beautiful Friday morning! It has been a while since I have seen this early of a Friday morning. Because it has been more convenient for me, because it works best with the crazy Haslam family life, I have been writing "Happy Friday" on Thursday nights. I decided earlier this week that I was going to get up a little earlier this Friday morning and actually write "Happy Friday" on Friday morning like I always used to do. I almost regretted it when I woke up!! :)

I have a few different things on my heart this morning. Just going to share and see where it leads us.

Senior Night
Tonight at 6:30 p.m. my Beautiful Bride and I will stand side by side, we will most likely hold hands and #5 - our 17-year old son - will line up across the field from us. The three of us will be introduced, a message that we have for him will be read as well as the message that he has for his Mom and I. We will walk towards each other, hug and I will have one more chance to tell him how much I love him and believe in him before he plays his final regular season home football game.

As I look to tonight my heart is not filled with sadness...the thing that keeps coming to mind is "This is so awesome!" Kath and I have often talked about this; I truly don't have a single "I wish Payton was..." moment/thought. I truly have enjoyed every step of our journey together up until this moment and I anxiously look forward to those to come. I don't wish he were in Kiddy College at Wayne State College...I smile as I remember he and I holding hands - one of the greatest feelings in the world is the precious hand of a child in yours! - as I walked him to class. I don't wish we could start this high school journey over...my heart feels warm as I remember his successes, I feel proud of my son as I remember the adversities he has overcome. Tonight is not a sad ending...it is the celebration of a new beginning! It is now, at this moment, that it is so clear to me; life is about the journey. It is a process. There are highs and their are lows...neither of which define us. It is a privilege, an honor to be Payton's Dad. I have enjoyed every moment of our journey to this point and I look forward to each step from this point forward!

Live In The Moment
How come, with me being the parent, I share things with my son to help him grow and the thing I share with him grabs my heart and transforms my life?!?! Hey, I am the adult here! He is the one that is supposed to be learning.

I shared this with you all a few weeks ago I believe. This thing has grabbed a hold of my heart, challenged my spirit and God is using it to transform my life. Let me share it again real quick and then I will share a few thoughts - This is taken directly from Training Camp: A Fable About Excellence by Jon Gordon:

The best seize the moment because they don’t allow their fear of failure to define them. They know this fear exists, and they overcome it. Their faith is greater than any score, performance, or outcome. Even if they lose, they are still on the path to greatness. And even if they fail, they are one step closer to the perfection they seek.
Ironically, even though the best have a dream and a vision within their sights, it is the journey, not the destination, that matters most to them. The moment is more important than any success or failure. The moment is the success. The moment is the reward.
When the best are in the midst of their performance, they are not thinking “What if I win?” or “What if I lose?” They are not thinking “What if I make a mistake or miss the shot?” They are not interested in what the moment produces but are only concerned with what they produce in the moment. When all eyes are watching, they know that this is the moment they have been preparing and waiting for. Rather than hiding from pressure, they rise to the occasion. As a result, the best define the moment rather than letting them moment define them. To seize the moment, don’t let your failure define you; let it fuel you. Don’t run from fear; face it and embrace it. Don’t let the fear rob you of your love and joy for the game; let it push you into the moment and beyond yourself. Let it inspire you to live and work each day as though it was your last.
Don’t let the moment define you. You define the moment. Define it by knowing that your practice and preparation have prepared you well. Define it with your mental strength, faith and confidence. Define it by knowing that regardless of the outcome, you have given your very best.
Everyone talks about destiny. Everyone searches for it, not realizing that every moment is your destiny. Make every moment of your life count. Realize that this is your one shot, yet don’t focus on the result or the outcome of the shot. Just focus on the shot.
Don’t focus on the past, and don’t look to the future. Success, rewards, accolades, fame, and fortune are merely byproducts for those who are able to seize the moment – not those who look beyond it. Ironically, to enjoy success you must not focus on it. Rather, you must focus on the process that produces success.
You are more than your successes. You are more than your failures. You are who you are in the moment. Enjoy it. Live it. Make the most of it. Make it yours.
 
It's all about the moment...living fully in it, giving yourself fully to it, not focusing on the outcome but rather focusing on the moment. If in fact we will focus on the moment, the outcome will take care of itself. Moms & Dads, is this speaking to your heart like it is screaming at mine? Husbands? Wives? If we will only live in the moment...
 
Speak Victory
I have no idea where they have come from but there have been a few Negativity Gremlins popping up around my house in the last few weeks and it is driving me crazy! One likes to say, "I can't" and another wants to point out how hard everything is all the time. As these Little Gremlins spew their venom it has really made me aware of the little negative things I will say - "I am not smart," "I am not the brightest bulb on the scoreboard," etc. While I am speaking these words in jest, my spirit has convicted me to get rid of them...even if I am kidding. So funny, and no I am not making this up, Speak Life by Toby Mac just came on the radio as I am typing this!!! God has such a great sense of humor!!!
 
The words we speak have great, great power. The thing about words is there is no meaningless or empty word. Every word has power - for life or for death. Yes, yes, I know. I have told Kath several times, "I am only kidding" or "I didn't really mean it." The thing is I spoke it. When we say things over and over again, when we receive them into our hearts, into our spirits they take root and grow. We need to continually cultivate the gardens of our hearts Friends. A misplaced seed can grow and, while it was a joke, something we didn't really mean, it can take root and grow into something that is far from funny.
 
Here is what I want to speak to you, to your life this morning - taking the lyrics directly from The Words I Would Say by Sidewalk Prophets:
 
Be strong in the Lord and never give up hope.
You're gonna do great things I already know
God's got his hand on you so don't live life in fear
Forgive and forget but don't forget why you're here
Take your time and pray
These are the words I would say
 
Please don't hesitate to contact me if there is ever anything I can do for you or your family. I will always be willing to help you any way I can.
 
Have a great day, a wonderful weekend and please cherish your precious families!
 
Kev

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