Some Choices

Happy Friday Friends!

I hope and trust this post finds you having a great day on this beautiful Friday morning! Additionally, I sincerely hope and trust this has been a great week for you and your family.

I have a couple of thoughts I want to share with you this morning. Nothing will be earth shattering, I don't think I will offer anything that in reality you don't already know. My hope, my aim is to raise our awareness and perhaps alter our action(s).

What do you see? Whatever it is you are looking for.

A few weeks back I wrote about perspective...seeing things differently. What I am speaking of this morning is different than perspective; what I am speaking of is the choice we make in how we approach things from the beginning. It is shaped by perspective, it is led by expectations and it determines the life we will live.

"You see only what you want to see, and what you see determines the health of your relationships [life]. Your attitude is a little thing that makes a massive difference. Don't be the stubborn one who makes it a point to not see the good in your partner [in people, in situations, in circumstances]. - Suman Rai

 

The brackets are a few words I added to alter the perspective. The bottom line for all of us is that we see only what we want to see.

• Do you see the good in your life? You see only what you want to see.
• Do you see the good in your spouse, partner, mate? You see only what you want to see.
• Do you see the good in your kids? You see only what you want to see.
• Do you see the good in the stranger you meet? You see only what you want to see.
• Do you see the good in your job? You see only what you want to see.

You see Friends, the reality is there is good and bad in all of us. There is good and bad in all situations & circumstances. It is our choice as to what we see...and it is a critical choice. What we see, the expectations we bring to the table, dictate the thoughts, the words and the actions that we will then live out. They then create the world that we live in and it all started with what we wanted to see.

 

If we want better lives, marriages, relationships with our kids, interactions with other people then perhaps we need to change what we are looking for. Do you see the good or the bad in others - we all have both? Do you see challenges or opportunities - you can claim it either way and you would be right? Do you see defeat or victory - there is the opportunity for both in most situations? Please remember that you see only what you want to see.

 

Everything has a cost.

 

There is a cost associated with everything in life and we make decisions based on which or what price we are willing to pay.

 

• Spending time with my wife and kids costs me the time I could have spent with others or doing something else.
• Doing something - anything! - costs me not being able to do something else.
• Giving of my time, my talents or my treasures to someone or something costs me the exact same with someone or something else.

Kind of weird when you look at it that way isn't it? The reality remains the same however. Everything has a cost.

 

So the question is "what price are you willing to pay?"

• Are you going to strive today to become the best you are capable of becoming? There is a cost.
• Are you going to love, honor, respect, protect & invest in your spouse? There is a cost.
• Are you going to love, honor, respect, protect & invest in your kids? There is a cost.
• Are you going to serve others, make someone else's life better today? There is a cost.
• Are you going to go to the gym, eat right, etc. today? There is a cost.

These are but a few examples. I can't tell you what the right answer is for you. Here is all I want you to know; you can say "yes"...and there is a cost. You can say "no"...and there is a cost. In fact, you can be completely indifferent...and there is a cost. The thing you and I have to determine today, in fact we will determine every day, is what price we are willing to pay.

 

Please don't hesitate to contact me if there is ever anything I can do for you or your family. I will always be willing to help you any way I can.

 

Have a great day, a wonderful weekend and please cherish your precious families.

 

Kev